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Life is much like the seasons.
Sometimes itโs hot, sometimes itโs raining. Tough, if you use the weather you are given you will always find a way to thrive.
Unhappiness is wishing to go to the beach when itโs winter or wanting to ski in summer.
Happiness is embracing the opportunities you have now, in this moment.
1. Thinking in seasons
There was a time when you were a kid and you couldnโt even walk. There was a time when you were in school for the first time. There was a time when you left your parentโs home and couldnโt even cook a basic meal.
Life is seasonal.
I don’t know in which season of life you are. But one thing I know for certain.
If you spend your time worrying about the seasons to come, or the seasons that already passed you will never be happy.
Just think about it…
โฆif you spent the energy that you consume worrying about future seasons and seasons in the past and used it to get the most out of your current seasons and opportunities you have right now, how much further would you go in life?
The bottom line?
As Marcus Aulerius the Stoic philosopher once said:
โStupidity is expecting figs in winter, or children in old age.โ
Marcus Aulerius Share
2. Embrace what is not in your control
Maybe you are in a season where you need to put diapers on your kids, or you are studying intensely for the university exams to come, or you have a work project that needs to be completed by an apparently impossible deadline.
Whatever it may be. The pivotal question you need to ask is:
โIs it in your control”?
If it is, good, go do something about it.
If itโs not, why would you waste your energy thinking about it then?
Complaining and blaming will not take you anywhere.
What if instead of wishing to control what you canโt control, you focus on controlling how you react to it ?
You canโt control the deadlines that your boss puts on your projects, but you can certainly control how you react you it. Will you blame, resent, and drain your energy complaining? Or will you take charge of how you respond to it, not letting it ruin your day? With lightness, and maybe, who knows, even joy!
"Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."
Reinhold Niebuhr Share
Bringing it home
Life is seasonal : If you spend your time worrying about the seasons to come, or the seasons that already passed you will never be happy.
Embrace what is not in your control : You canโt control what happens to you, but you can always control how you react to what happens to you.
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To your rapid growth and transformation,
โ Idris Moura
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